Maybe this will become clearer after you upload a workbook with some sample data, but I suspect SUMPRODUCT might be your ticket, as in
=SUMPRODUCT(--MONTH(DateRange)=MONTH(CellValue)),SumRange)
or something like that.
Click "Go Advanced" below and then the paper clip icon to upload a (small!) data sample that illustrates what you want to achieve.
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